Saving mutual love will depend on whether the partners will be able to understand these new requirements and to find ways to meet the expectations of each other. Representation is about the relationship of love as something frozen is not tenable. Love - is a constant process of development and change of attitudes, requiring partners much more attention and responsiveness, than in the early stages of courtship. If we want to save the love we need to understand what factors contribute to its disappearance - a known danger is not so terrible. Of course, all the factors or reasons to list are hardly possible.
One reason is that in a relationship with someone you love, people often take on a certain mission, seeking to remake the neighbor in its own image and likeness. Many even consider it their sacred duty! The desire to remake the partner is having a devastating effect on relations. Is reasonable to expect from a completely re-normal adult human being? This problem is ill-founded, and often impossible. Attempts of this change are perceived as violence. Of course, there are some traits to put up with that very difficult, such as alcoholism, one spouse makes a life together is extremely difficult if not impossible. With such features have to fight. But, unfortunately, will not be accepted and completely neutral quality, for example, the speed with which a person eats a bowl of soup. Maybe the secret appeal of so-called resort's novels lies precisely in the fact that the partners in such a situation do not try to remake one another, do not complicate your relationship with reproaches and unnecessary moralizing. When we point out how to dress, paint, eat, do exercises, tie a tie. We like to remind every minute that alone we cannot cope with these issues that we ourselves do not stand.
Unfortunately, many young people find a partner ready to attribute any changes in a romantic relationship. We demand that the person to change the style of clothing, demand to abandon habits that we do not like to abandon friends - eager to demonstrate their power.